Advice on How to Get Your Ex Back Fast
If you need some advice on how to get your ex back, then you're not alone. While I'm sure that there are some amazing success stories out there, the fact of the matter is that most of us just don't end up with our first boyfriend or girlfriend. And you know what else? Most break ups aren't all that clean, either. Usually, one person wants to get back together with the other.
So, what causes two people to not want to be together anymore, and more importantly... what can you do about it?
The reasons that people break up are actually a little bit different for both men and women, but they are closely related regardless. But just for the sake of giving you a good understanding of both male and female psychology, I'll talk about them seperately.
Have you ever heard anyone talk about "the male ego?" Well, its real, its huge, and its a beast that needs a lot of nurturing. A man has to feel like a man to want anything to do with a relationship. He needs to feel that he commands respect. He also needs a sense of freedom, and he absolutely must feel that his woman is attracted to him and looks up to him.
Women don't care as much about their ego as a man does. Still, a woman definitely has her needs. For a woman to feel that she wants to be in a relationship for the long haul, she must feel appreciated and feel that she is the apple of her man's eye. She can't feel like some casual girl or business partner. A woman needs to feel like a princess or a queen, and when she does, she will never want to leave!
Now some people may look at this and think "nope, that's not the reason my ex wants to be apart... they told me a completely different reason." I can't go too in depth because this is not a psychology journal, but trust me when I say this all boils down to human psychology.
Humans are "retro-psychological" creatures, meaning that 90% of the time we base our actions purely on our emotions. However, because acting on your emotions is not always acceptable in this society, we often rationalize our behavior by making logical-sounding excuses. That is why the "reasons" that your ex gave you are not only confusing, they are also probably misleading and untrue.
Don't take the reasons your ex gives you for wanting to break up at face value. Instead, you just have to stay focused on your goal. You want your ex back? Let me tell you what your plan should be, in a nutshell.
To get started towards getting your ex back, the key is to repair damage that has already been done. Basically, you have to stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right things. Sounds simple enough, right?
So, what causes two people to not want to be together anymore, and more importantly... what can you do about it?
The reasons that people break up are actually a little bit different for both men and women, but they are closely related regardless. But just for the sake of giving you a good understanding of both male and female psychology, I'll talk about them seperately.
Have you ever heard anyone talk about "the male ego?" Well, its real, its huge, and its a beast that needs a lot of nurturing. A man has to feel like a man to want anything to do with a relationship. He needs to feel that he commands respect. He also needs a sense of freedom, and he absolutely must feel that his woman is attracted to him and looks up to him.
Women don't care as much about their ego as a man does. Still, a woman definitely has her needs. For a woman to feel that she wants to be in a relationship for the long haul, she must feel appreciated and feel that she is the apple of her man's eye. She can't feel like some casual girl or business partner. A woman needs to feel like a princess or a queen, and when she does, she will never want to leave!
Now some people may look at this and think "nope, that's not the reason my ex wants to be apart... they told me a completely different reason." I can't go too in depth because this is not a psychology journal, but trust me when I say this all boils down to human psychology.
Humans are "retro-psychological" creatures, meaning that 90% of the time we base our actions purely on our emotions. However, because acting on your emotions is not always acceptable in this society, we often rationalize our behavior by making logical-sounding excuses. That is why the "reasons" that your ex gave you are not only confusing, they are also probably misleading and untrue.
Don't take the reasons your ex gives you for wanting to break up at face value. Instead, you just have to stay focused on your goal. You want your ex back? Let me tell you what your plan should be, in a nutshell.
To get started towards getting your ex back, the key is to repair damage that has already been done. Basically, you have to stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right things. Sounds simple enough, right?
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